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Written By Quinn

I've met many tarot readers during my time down here on the planet, and each of them had a different belief system operating behind the tools they used. One of my pet hates of people is that they assume clients should take their word as law. Some readers honestly believe that the client shouldn't question what they say. Those same readers also believe that if a reading doesn't happen exactly as predicted, it's the client's fault, and they must've interfered with fate and changed the course of events. Sometimes, they'll even say that a client has blocked something magical from happening because they are less evolved. I've heard others say their readings are never wrong and that if that's what has been given to them by their higher power <insert deity here> then it has to be correct.

Being a Leo (a 9th house Sun & Mercury), I can be incredibly bossy, and I'm even known to be dogmatic and conceited. I remember times when I would throw words around like confetti without thinking about what I was saying. Hindsight has shown me far more than foresight ever could. As I sit here now, I am humble enough to accept that my word was not what I thought it was. The problem was that I didn't think about what I was saying. For those who know a little about astrology, I imagine you're laughing at the irony of a 9th house Leo Mercury complaining about people having issues with mental superiority (I have Jupiter in the 3rd, too!), but what can I say? And to be honest, my conceit doesn't stretch all that far. I don't ever assume a reading I do will be 100% accurate, and it doesn’t matter how many times I get it right. I always hold onto the possibility that I can get it wrong. My immortal self only comes out to play when I'm taking off on a flight of fancy. For the non-astrologically inclined, I'm trying to say that arrogance and assumption are not beneath me, but I’m well aware there’s a time and a place — just not when I’m working.

That said, to assume that the client should value your opinion is healthy. It shows that you value your work. To think that you can probably give them the information they don't have access to is also healthy. It shows that you know what you're doing and have developed the tools necessary to look beneath the superficial.

It is wrong to assume that the client should take your advice above their inner voice. — that attitude would suggest that you value your self-importance above their individuality. To think that the client should see you as an authority in their life is a potential abuse of privilege. Anyone who has developed autonomy knows that they are the ones in control of their own decisions. It's always good to get an outside opinion, but that's all it is, an opinion. It may well be an informed opinion, but it doesn't change the fact that it's just an opinion.

It's not always easy to get the balance right; if you can't acknowledge this, you're in danger of getting it wrong. Ideally, you'll achieve healthy confidence in your abilities without resorting to inflating your self-importance at the client's expense. You have to be able to recognise your limits as a human being. Those with strong beliefs are the most significant danger of not identifying boundaries. The stronger the belief system, the greater the chance of the reader assuming they are somehow above the client regarding personal evolution.

Being a reader is a service. You're relaying information from a moment in time to help the client with something they consider to be necessary. Obviously, you have to have a degree of confidence in what you're passing on, but you can also have an open mind. It's not up to you how the client uses the information you give them. You can't afford to take it personally if they ignore warnings or refuse to take it word for word. How they process and act on the information you give them is their responsibility and their right.

 

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