When the Cards are Full of Shit

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Back in 2017, I had to return to the phone lines for a short while and it didn’t take long to start hearing from people who were questioning whether the readings they'd had were accurate because hoped for results were failing to manifest. These types of readings are usually focused on an ex-partner; ‘when will they be back’ to be precise. So, this morning, when I got a call from a woman, we'll call her Maria, I felt the familiar sense of dread which has me feeling like I never want to answer the phone again. The short story is that Maria has been calling since the start of the year after an important relationship ended. Scores of readers have said he's coming back, only one or two dissenting from the popular opinion. Recently, she emailed him and told him how she felt..probably the usual — I miss you, still have feelings for you etc, etc. After getting no response whatsoever she made a smart move. Maria got her best friend to text him and that best friend actually managed to speak to him. He told her best friend he had appreciated their relationship but had no intention of rekindling the old days. It was over. So, of course, she rang for another reading. After shuffling, laying out, and seeing the cards, I started to tell her what I was getting. There was indeed the presence of a man who would be speaking romantic words, the timing was soon, before winter, and everything was looking good. So, who the fuck was the man in the reading? I tried to explain to her this happens sometimes, and a reader will have all the indicators of a return. Still, it’s just reflecting the desires of the person having the reading rather than throwing up anything predictive.

In another case, an old client of mine had been having readings for the best part of two years when I turned around and told him to move on out of sheer frustration. The cards were saying the same old shit, and yet here he was still waiting for the return of his ex-partner, who was now living with another man. I liked this client and still do; we became friends, and he's still in my life over ten years later. When I say I liked him, I genuinely cared about him and his life. Still do. But those cards were flat-out full of shit when it came to reality.

After shuffling the decks for more than twenty years, I've learned many things about this type of questioning, and I'm going to be brutally honest. The cards really can show the return of the beloved. There won't be a single indicator; there will be multiple confirmations. You don't need to sit and pretend you've got all those cup cards, the Hierophant, and whoever else is making an appearance because they’re right there in front of you. You can pull them back, reshuffle, get the same thing, you try again a week later, same again. A month later it’s the same again. By this time, you’ll probably know the client well, and they’ve probably spoken to six or seven other readers who mostly say the same thing. The client might get the odd one who says no way will you be reunited, but by and large, they're in the tiny minority. You start to reason with yourself, as most humans do. How can so many say the same thing if it isn't true? You know what you’re seeing and what’s more, you know what the cards are saying. 

An old friend of mine has a point of always saying no in response to the question, ‘Is he/she coming back’. Always. Her reasoning is that if it happens, it's a nice surprise, and the one asking the question isn't sitting there waiting for something which probably won’t happen. She believes that we all have a blueprint, but we're not forced to stick to it. If it happens to you, the best thing you can do is just come clean. Tell them you don’t know why you’re getting so many readings saying they’re coming back when they’re clearly not. You can tell them the cards won’t show anything beyond their desires. It’s really common for a person to want someone back, and those first six weeks after separation can be awful — so awful it’ll mimic the stages of grief. Understandably, they want the pain to end, and it’s also understandable you want to be kind, but…

These days I’m inclined to agree with the old friend and say no. I’d try to encourage readings of a different nature such as ‘How best can I look after myself at this time’ or ‘what can I focus on to alleviate my emotional distress’. If they split up longer than three months beforehand I definitely wouldn’t answer the question and would insist on framing the reading differently. Sometimes, people get stuck and they’ll sit and watch life pass them by because they’re under the illusion they just need to wait. This is never a healthy state to be in. Explore the reasons they’re stuck. Explore the ways they can move forward. Explore the crushes they have on celebrities if you must, but try not to indulge the desires and illusions which have little to no chance of ever manifesting. When it’s the end of the line and there’s nowhere to go it can be scary. You can better serve your client by getting them onto a different track.

 

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